Direct is the Confident Way

Innuendos are a tool used everywhere. However, they are simply ways of masking peoples tones and used to avoid coming across as too harsh in most cases. After overthinking my own personal use of ‘more polite’ innuendos, I’ve come to the conclusion that the more confident you are, the less need there is to try to come across in a more polite manner. Based on my personal experience, in situations when I am less confident in myself, I tend to act more politely to avoid saying the wrong thing or having to worry that people will judge me if I accidentally come off too strong by saying what I think/want in an overly direct way. I believe that if people simply understand that being direct won’t usually offend people and that people won’t judge them for it, it would be much easier to communicate and to get things across much faster. The main problem with saying certain things indirectly is that even though most people will understand it and might act on it, it makes the demand/request appear less seriously. This leads to people lacking respect for each other and even themselves. 

 

When people naturally enter a room and immediately get to the point (which can also be done politely without using innuendos), they come across as strong-minded and a natural leader. This is why most successful people are straight up with what they want to say. It is extremely powerful to see someone not doubting the words coming out of their mouths, and unfortunately, this doubting quality comes across in people who try to tip-toe their way around expressing their thoughts and opinions.